Expectation

I was told by someone today that the best thing to do is anything you want to do without expecting anything in return.

 

No expectations.

 

Let’s try it 

Ten Things….

Ten things to be happy about…
1. Your pet. If you don’t have one, get one. If you can’t get one, buy a plant. Bonsai’s are fun. I once met someone with pet rocks.
2. Your body. The other day, while trying on swimsuits, I did the owl-turn-of-neck to see how my butt looked. There was a momentary cringe followed by a slight pinch of my cushiony bits. This was a blip. A glitch. I slapped myself (no not in the butt) metaphorically. My body is just fine. So is yours. Keep reminding yourself of that, especially in dressing rooms.
3. Your interests. Whether it is photography, music, technology or cactus, be happy about your interests for they make you unique. Relish in them and keep doing so for as long as you get satisfaction.
4. Your job. Yeah, so maybe you want a different one, a better one, a higher paying one. Unless you are crying every day when you get home, be happy you have a means to an end. If you love your job, be happy that not only do you have a means to an end, but an enjoyable day as well.
5. Your family, your boyfriend/girlfriend, your friends. This can cause the most happiness of all (and more often than not coupled with the most frustration). Whether your loved ones drive you to grow, drive you to be a better person or just drive you insane, the bottom line is they make us happy. Tell them they do so. Try to do things every day that you know will make them happy. They will also do the same.
6. Luxury. If you are reading this, that means you have a computer. If you have a computer that means you can afford luxury, be it large or small. If you love chocolate, buy the best there is. If you love fabric, buy high thread count (email me for suggestions). If you have very little money, borrow two bucks from one of those loved ones you just made happy to get the really good ice cream.
7. Your ability to learn. Can you imagine a fun life if you cease to learn anything new? I can’t either.
8. The mistakes you make. No one ever thinks they did it completely right. No one ever thinks they said the right thing. No one ever wishes they could have a do-over. Realize you are not alone, and your mistakes lead to growth. Often they made lead to a broken bone or a bruised butt….but those heal too.
9. Sleep. Sleep makes you live longer, live healthier, and be late for a morning meeting. But, how fun is it when you roll into work late in a shirt you found on the floor, wearing two different shoes because that was all that was in your car, and a stain on your pants from drinking coffee while driving, hoping no one will notice?
10. E-book readers. 180 books in the palm of my hand. Ok, that was a selfish number ten in my top ten…forgive me please.

Act Aloof? Seriously!

I once read an article that gave instructions on how to get what you want out of relations and situations. One of the bullet points was to act aloof and nonchalant if you want to get what you want.

I don’t know about you, but telling me to act aloof is like telling a fish to act like an elephant, I just can’t do it.

So basically, all this article ever did was instill a fear in myself that with every act that shows interest in someone, something or some purpose, will act as a repellent to the very thing that I am showing interest in. To add to the conflict, I cannot manage to turn this switch off at all.

What usually happens is one of two things: Either the subject of interest becomes unavailable or tells me to get lost, or I get it. Yeah basically that is the only two options available right? Except in my head, I always expect the first option while continuing to act in a way that I fear the first option will occur.

I wonder how much of this is true, or if secretly every human being fears this loss. If this were true, it would seem the logical explanation is for each and every human to ignore articles written by nut jobs and show as much interest as possible in things they desire.

Roll Call: Who has this fear?  How do you manage it?

The Art We Live In

Purchase of the Day

Rock n Republic Scorpions. They will make your butt be your favorite butt in the entire world. They will slim your legs, make you look taller, and thank the heavens that they had one in your size left.